Note from the Editor: Rachel Hahn, a member of PC ’16 and our chapter’s VP Recruitment (so a pretty big deal), sat down with me, a member of PC ’17 and not qualified to give advice but will do so anyways, to ask me a few questions about what my recruitment experience was like because she’s too old to remember her own (just kidding Rachel love you!). Our goal was for future PC ’18, and really anyone going through recruitment in a few weeks, to feel reassured and be able to understand why they shouldn’t be nervous about a few aspects of recruitment that a lot of people are usually nervous about. Happy reading!
-Emily Deen | PC ’17
RH: What were you nervous about going into recruitment?
ED: I think I was mostly nervous about finding people that I really felt like I fit in with. I grew up with the same group of friends pretty much so I was nervous to have to go out on my own all of the sudden and make a new one. I had always heard people say things like “you’re going to meet your bridesmaids on bid day!” and I was worried that I wasn’t going to have that experience and wouldn’t feel comfortable right away in whatever sorority I ended up choosing. Looking back now I can see that I was putting way too much pressure on myself and should have been patient and given myself time to make friends and meet the people I would be spending the next four years with. So my advice is to not try to choose your bridesmaids on bid day because you’re going to have a lot of other things going on and it really doesn’t need to be your number one priority. Good bridesmaids come to those who wait.
RH: Did you know anything about the process ahead of time?
ED: I knew a few things because my mom was a Kappa Delta at Texas Tech and is still super involved as an alum, so she was really helpful in helping me figure out the whole process. However, her experience was super different because she was a member of the founding chapter at Tech, so recruitment didn’t involve making a million packets or getting rec letters or sprinting from house to house in the pouring rain in the middle of Hurricane Harvey. I also didn’t know a single person in a sorority at UT so I was very clueless when it came to each sorority on campus. At the time I thought that not knowing much about greek life at UT would be a disadvantage, but I’m grateful for it now because I was completely unbiased and was able to evaluate what I liked and disliked about each house without any preconceived opinions getting in the way. Yay for not knowing anything!!
RH: What was the hardest part for you?
ED: Definitely pref night. Throughout the beginning of the week I wasn’t too worried and didn’t feel like the decisions I had to make at the end of each day were very hard. I didn’t have a bad experience at any of the houses but I was able to easily discern which houses I didn’t feel drawn to. That is until pref night. I was walking to the UTC to do my final ranking- umbrella broken and turned upside down from the hurricane force winds, heels ruined by the flood waters raging down the streets, Panhellenic provided tote bag dripping with rainwater- and all of the sudden I had no idea what to choose. Luckily I had really great recruitment counselors in the room with me who were so helpful and genuinely wanted me to make the best decision I could make, so I left feeling like I made the right choice and was reassured even more when I ran home to KD the next day!!
RH: What was easier than you thought?
ED: Throughout the week I found it so much easier to make friends than I thought I would. Literally everyone going through recruitment is in the same position and no one doesn’t want to make new friends. It was also so easy to talk to active members during the parties at each house. I had thought that it would pretty much be up to me to carry on conversations and that I would have to come prepared with a whole list of things to talk about in case it got awkward. Although it is really helpful and important to know what questions you have and to be prepared to ask them, I was pleasantly surprised by how friendly and excited each active was to talk to me and how casual and easy the conversations were.
RH: If you could do it over again, what would you do differently?
ED: For the most part I’m happy with how my recruitment experience went and I’m so thankful that it led me to KD, so I don’t think I would do many things differently. I definitely wouldn’t worry so much about what I was going to wear. I feel like I dragged my mom to every mall in the DFW metroplex that summer trying to find the right comfortable daytime dress or skirt and attire that is a little more dressy than daytime dresses but not formal. Wearing unique shoes or jewelry or dresses is a really good way to show your style and personality and also an easy talking point to start off conversations, so I wish I wouldn’t have stressed about that as much. Also I would have waterproofed all of my shoes.
RH: Recruitment can be tough and stressful and challenging, but at the end of the day, I truly believe in the process. If you go in with an open mind and an open heart, be yourself, and trust that you end up in the right place, recruitment will be so worth it. It’s easy to tear yourself down or think you aren’t worthy, but I encourage you to remind yourself that you have inherent value just by being the amazing woman you are and no sorority will add or take away from that. Their job is to make you see that value more clearly and give you a place where you feel loved. I am so proud to be a part of a chapter that does exactly that. We can’t wait to meet you PC’18! See you soon and #GoConfidentlyAndGoKD